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Hi 😽 I'm Mxtress Smith and these are my kinky links.  I check FL and Fab a few times a week.  Links open in new tabs.
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Venues
Sauna Sauna, Northwich CW8 4GX
Sauna Sauna (yes, that is its name) hosts a monthly bisexual (pansexual) 14 hour party, first Friday of each month. It's a sprawling, two-floor, two-wing building with less than a quarter of its floor space given to the actual sauna, the rest is licensed bar, changing rooms, many private rooms, an orgy room, glory hole alley, mini maze, darkrooms, open kink rooms... This is their website and this is their Gay Sauna Guide info page. (They don't use fabswingers.com anymore.) It's my favourite party, not to say that I've had a wonderful time each visit. I go at least 6 times a year to the bi events. Besides that, they do a few straight events every month under the name Club Alchemy, a weekly trans and admirers night, rest of the time predominantly gay catering. There's plenty of trans people at the bi nights and I prefer the blend of genders present then — I've been to a few gay nights, a couple of trans nights. I've recently got an appreciation for the steam room and when I'm expressing genderfuckery (most of the time), I have a few outfits for that room apart from the rest of the club. Makeup goes on after steam room fun, if makeup goes on at all.
Nero's/ Partners, Bury BL8 1SW
Dual personality venue, Nero's is its gay name, Partners is its straight name and it switches back n forth through the week. Biphoria is the weekly bi event all afternoon and evening on Thursdays — I've been twice, had more fun the second time. Also had fun on a gay Sunday afternoon.  Kage is the monthly kinkfest — pansexual and quite busy, quite a young crowd, I've been twice and it's not entirely my scene.
Steam Complex/ Pandora, Leeds LS12 2ND
This venue is a lot easier for me to get to by train than driving — factor in cycling to and from train stations, the journey should take 1hr30ish. You can tell from the biphoria page, this Leeds event is promoted in the same way as the Nero's/ Partners in Bury and they run on the same timetable: every Thursday, early afternoon until late night. Small sauna. Large pool. BYOB, bar serving free tea, coffee and water, soft drinks, snacks for sale. Fairly large collection of rooms for fun across 2 more floors. I tend to go here (or Nero's in Bury) on Thursdays for Biphoria when I'm off work.
Townhouse, Birkenhead CH42 3TL
Club with frequent themed nights. I've been once, had a fair good time but because it was my first, I felt a little out of water — but you do these things to broaden your horizons, yeah? I went to their Queerspace event in March, it was cool. I'll be keeping an eye out for it but their last one was on a Thursday, the one evening of the week I prefer to stay home.
RIOT Party, no fixed venue, MCR (and other cities)
They hold social events in various venues and evening raves with areas for intimacy, roughly monthly. They celebrate all genders and orientations, s-workers and queer POC. I go for the people, the vibes they emanate and the opportunity to express through dress.
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My pictures and more details about me are on my fetife, fabswingers and fetish.com profiles, see the links on my welcome page.
I like: Watching and being watched — spontaneous couplings and group sex — being top, vers or bottom depending on mood and dynamics — giving fantastic rimjobs — big cocks, big dildos — giving throat —nipple pain — sex while buzzing my tits off from Carolina Reaper chilli — dressing in clothes considered femme and slutty.
(A non-binary person with a penis, such as myself, wearing clothes considered femme is not, in my opinion, cross-dressing — it's an expression of actual gender).
I want to try: Being restrained, being flogged and paddled.
I don't like: Poop. Puke. Pee. Broken skin. Marks anywhere not usually covered by clothes. Absence of personal hygiene (during sex, whatever I put in my mouth has got to taste clean and neutral, or of chilli). I'm really indifferent to some of the performance around BDSM, like I'm not going to pretend that I don't enjoy something when I'm enjoying it. Oh no, this chilli con quorni has too much capsaicin and is burning my mouth, please make it stop (like that would ever happen!)
When not fucking, I'm kinda like: I take one home-grown, gnarly, knobbly Carolina Reaper chilli, chopped up small, per pizza, per week, plus homemade reaper chilli sauce with most meals: this gets me through life, as do other little crutches, like most people. I'm way left of centre but not extreme, and very distrustful of authority, though I'm pretty chill around apolitical and vaguely Tory folk if you're chill around me, we might not be best friends but whatever.
I can play guitar but rarely pick it up this last decade — I've used that practice time to get good on drums instead. I've forgotten almost everything I learnt on piano. I dazzle on the rusty trombone! I work in IT, doing Windows systems for money and Linux systems for shits and giggles. I'm married (3 years) to an asexual man, we've been together and in love for 15 years. Everything I do, I do with his fully informed consent and encouragement. If he hadn't become asexual, probably due to antidepressant meds, we might have experimented together and this would have been our profile, not mine.
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It used to be that I had a page here with a form on it, and you could fill in a message and your email address, and the page would send me an email, from my address, to my address.  Then I got lots of spam. Messages telling me that they could increase my site's commercial traffic, get more hits, get more sales.
I'm not looking for sales, thank you — I'm looking for dick.
So, instead of the form, I'm inviting you to send a normal email from your choice of app.  I'm not going to publish it directly here — I suspect that web bots would still crawl the site looking for stuff that is an obvious email address. However, if you sent to mxtress at the same domain as this site, I'd receive.
That way, if you're the kind of internet user that doesn't have any accounts on social media (kinky or vanilla) but you have an email address, you can still message me.
And here is a fake email address for the web-bots to waste their CPU runtime on: